Emotional Healing: Shame, hurt, fear, spirit of condemnations –

Posted: August 27, 2014 in Emotional Healing, Foundation on "Identities in Christ"

Importance of Healing of the hurts:

Shame and hidden shame are produced by hurts, at the same time shame produces hurts. Therefore healing of the hurts are important.

Hurts can produce shame, and shame can produce hurt, it’s a vice versa. And remember, it’s just not shame and hurts alone, shame and hurts can produce the spirit of fear, and can produce the spirit of rejection, spirit of abandonment, depression, isolation, bitterness, anger, frustration, and can lead to many different kinds of sins in this world.

Some of the reasons how shame can come and how to defeat the spirit of shame:

First of ALL, it’s not a problem overcoming shame, once you got Christ and fully understand His love toward you, then you defeated shame, it’s that simple.

Shame can come while we do not know, How Shame can come –

1. Sin and welcoming the spirit of condemnation in our heart: Proclaim and declare your Identities in Christ. Eg – I am a child of God, I am made righteous in Christ, I am a new creation.

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1)

If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has gone, the new has come. (2Cor 5:17) You can proclaim and say, “The old has gone, the new has come, I am a NEW CREATION in Christ Jesus”.

2. Divorce parents, parents separating, broken family (shame, hurts, pain, depressions)

Single Parenting: In America alone, 10.4 million single mother families and 2.5 million single father families (who already got kids).

Single Parenting Results:

85% of all youths sitting in prisons are from single parents
63% of suicides nationwide are individuals from single-parent families.
75% of children in chemical dependency hospitals are from single-parent families.
90% of all homeless and runaway children
More than half of all youths incarcerated in the U.S. lived in one-parent
families as a child
63% of youth suicides
85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger
71% of all high school dropouts
75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers
70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions

The love of God is the most powerful key to heal all these hurts.

3. Being teased a lot in bad names, especially during childhood, either by friends, family, relatives, teachers or at school or communities. Eg: Being called Fatty boy/girl by friends and families. Or everyone calling you ugly.

Proclaim and declare your Identities in Christ, who you are in Christ, and receive the deep love of God. Eg: I am created in the image of God

4. Rejected by friends as a child: Proclaim and declare your Identities in Christ, who you are in Christ, and receive the deep love of God. Eg: I am a child of God, I am deeply loved by God.

5. Being abused in words, deeds and actions – rape, mistreatment, knocked out from home: Proclaim and declare your Identities in Christ, who you are in Christ, and receive the deep love of God. (see the HEALING below)

6. Being betrayed by loved one’s, friends, family and co workers: Proclaim and declare your Identities in Christ, who you are in Christ, and receive the deep love of God. Eg: I am a child of God, I am deeply loved by God, God will never leave me nor forsake me. (see the HEALING below)

7. Poverty – Being poor than the average:

We need to know that our values in life are not measured by how much wealth, money and materials we’ve got. Everyone on earth is valuable because God has set our value, that’s Jesus Christ. We need to get back to our Identities in Christ, who we are, that we are valuable. Jesus Christ is our price and our worth.

– I am a child of God,
– I am deeply loved by God, He love me as I am,
– I am bought with the blood of Jesus Christ, I value the blood of Jesus Christ,

The shoes we wear or not wear, they are not who we are, they are not our identities. The cars we have or not have, they are not who we are, they are not our values or our identities. The house and lands we have or not have, they are not our value, they are not who we are, they are not our identities. The finances, money or materials we have or not have, they are not who we are, they are not our Identities. Our Identity is in Christ.

8. Our parent’s life, as well as our brothers and sister’s life, our children’s life, and the life of our loved one’s.

While we neglect all these things and we thought they got no side effects, many times they got some or even many different side effects in the inner being.

HEALING:

You feel shame because you are hurt, hurt by sins, or hurt by different situations you face in life. When you overcome shame, many of your hurts will be healed.

Learn not to be offended, but then in life, we all get offended in different situations and circumstances, everyone on earth.

Overcoming shame and forgiveness are one of the main KEYS to healing hurts. For some situations, you will need to forgive again and again.

1. Forgive whomever you need to forgive, again and again as necessary. At the same time for some specific situations, you might need to eliminate some of your unhealthy relationships. For example,

– From your Soul mate with whom you have had sex before,
– Your ex-girl friend/ boy friend, especially one’s whom you played with sexually and emotionally,
– Someone who kept on abusing you in words, actions and deeds, from someone who kept on mistreating you in different form of ways, from someone who kept on betraying you.
– For teenagers, it would not be good to associate with drug addict friends, or friends who are liars to their parents.
– For people with past history, eg – Drug addictions, it would be good not to associate with other drug addicts.

(The point is that it is not necessarily healthy to build relationship with everyone, even though relationships are important).

When one of Jesus’s best friend betrayed Jesus, Jesus said in Matt 26:24 – “For the Son of Man must die, as the Scriptures declared long ago. But how terrible it will be for the one who betrays him. It would be far better for that man if he had never been born!”

Whereas, when Peter betrayed Jesus, Jesus forgave Peter again, and use Peter for His Kingdom more than ever before.

2. The Truth will set you free –

– Face the truth about yourself and the situation, accept the truth about yourself, especially in where you need to face, the truth will set you free, (Eg – Counselling by good counselors, being accountable to someone, or even being accountable to one another as a couple).

– Always know that God loves you so much, the deep truths about God’s love will set you free,

– The truths of God’s word, the revelational truths, and the revelational truths of God’s word will set you free.

3. Proclaim and declare your Identities in Christ, declare them in your bed room, in your living room, in your house, in your prayer place, the truths about your Identities in Christ, who you are, they will set you free, will give you freedom, joy, boldness and courage like you have never experienced before.

4. The love of God is one of the most powerful KEY to heal most of our hurts, shame, hidden shame, fear, and to have true boldness and courage.

– David Chawngthu

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