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Be good to others

Posted: June 13, 2016 in Valuing others

It is important to be good to others, family members, our neighbors, friends, and everyone else.

The scripture said, “ ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’ “This is the great and foremost commandment. “The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’ “ (Matt 22:37-39)

One of the purpose of writing this article is to show that God put much important in being good to others, the scripture said that it is the Greatest commandment to love God and our neighbors. So God put it very important.

The Lord blessed Laban because of Jacob:

We find that Jacob worked for his father in law Laban, and the Lord blessed Laban because of Jacob.

Laban said to Jacob, “If I have found favor in your eyes, please stay. I have learned by divination that the LORD has blessed me because of you.” He added, “Name your wages, and I will pay them.” Jacob said to him, “You know how I have worked for you and how your livestock has fared under my care. The little you had before I came has increased greatly, and the LORD has blessed you wherever I have been…” (Gen 30:27-30)

Supernatural transference of Laban’s wealth to Jacob:

Jacob’s father in law seems to be unfair to Jacob, cheating Jacob, and seems to be doing many clever deeds to him, however, God transferred Laban’s wealth and gave it to him. Laban was bad to Jacob, but God transferred his wealth and gave them to Jacob.

Jacob said to Rachel and Leah, “I see your father’s attitude, that it is not friendly toward me as formerly, but the God of my father has been with me. You know that I have served your father with all my strength. Yet your father has cheated me and changed my wages ten times; however, God did not allow him to hurt me. If he said, ‘The speckled shall be your wages,’ then all the flock brought forth speckled; and if he said, ‘The striped shall be your wages,’ then all the flock brought forth striped. So, God has taken away your father’s livestock and given them to me”. (Gen 31:5-9)

We don’t say that God will do it that way to us, however, this is a very interesting true story of a person who was not good to someone, a real life story, and how God transferred wealth and Jacob became exceedingly prosperous as the Bible said. Therefore, it is important that we love our neighbors, and love others and be good to others.

It is important for us that we don’t do cruel things to others, evil deeds and wicked deeds against others, mistreating others, cheating others, doing bad things against others, and that we have a clean heart toward others and if it depends on us, living at peace with everyone.

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The scripture said in Romans 12:18, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone”.

– David Chawngthu


Low self image can hinder us from receiving from God. When we have a low self image, we feel we are not worthy, we can have a feelings of not worthy to receive, not worthy to have, not worthy to have good belongings, not worthy to be rich or wealthy. But when we know our Identities in Christ, we know we are a child of God, we are children of the King, we feel we are Prince and Princesses, we know we are loved and accepted, we know God wants to give us good gifts.

Jesus said in Matthew 7:11 – “If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give what is good to those who ask Him! (Matt 7:11)

From here we can say that, even wicked people and evil people love to give good gifts to their children. Our heavenly Father is a good God, full of love and compassion, who is generous and love to give good gifts to us.

Some years ago in 2008, me and my family were working in Youth with a Mission without any single salary, we need flight tickets, train tickets, taxi fares, staff fees, house rent, electric bills, other travelling expenses, need to buy household things for our new home where we will be shifting, and many more needs. In the midst of that we still need a laptop, I fasted one meal and asked God for a laptop, which I told only my wife, and then we were given a laptop in the same month, God provided us through my Grand Dad in the same month, he didn’t knew that I was praying to God for a laptop in that month, I was amazed, we were amazed.

If I feel unworthy to have a laptop in the midst of all that, then I wouldn’t asked God for a laptop when I need, but being a child of God, I believe that God wants to provide for us. Jesus said in Matt 7:7 – “Ask and it shall be given to you”.

God wants to provide us not only what we need, but in abundant and for our enjoyment. God wants us to enjoy life.

1 Timothy 6:17 says that “God is the one who richly provide us all things for our Enjoyment”.

low self image

When we have a low self image, not knowing that we are sons and daughters of the King of heaven and earth, we can feel that we are not worthy to receive good things, and it can hinder us from receiving from God, but the truth is that we are children of the King, highly precious and highly valuable to Him, Extremely loved, and He love to provide for us, that’s the truth.

– David Chawngthu

It is briefed that 15 times in the Old Testament Bible about Father, and 254 times in the New Testament Bible.

Positive speaking:

If you have practice hearing the voice of God in regularity personally, or if you have been in an environment where you shared together in regularity what God spoke to you, you will experience that most of the time He will speak very simple words to us and very positive, He will speak about how much He loves us, how precious we are to Him, how valuable we are to Him, how He sees us, how He is with us, how He treasure us, how we are the apple of His eyes, His encouragement, His comfort, His strengthening, His uplifting, His appreciations, His praise toward us, how He is proud of us as His son or daughter, all those things are the Heart of the Father God showing to us. through hearing the voice of God.

In the same way, it is important to speak positive things to our children to build healthy emotional health, healthy self image and healthy confident, you are handsome/ beautiful, you are so precious, God gave you to us, appreciations and praise.

Identities In Christ:

If you measure your value and your worth by anything rather than your “Identities in Christ”, either by the positions you hold, by the degrees you have, by the wealth you have, or by your looks, or any other kinds of outward things, you are probably having some kind of Insecurities inside yourself. You will need to know your “Identities in Christ” and meditate on them.

You are a beloved child of the most high God, highly valued and precious.

Knowing and experiencing

Respect, value:

The language that were often spoken to you in your childhood and as you grew up, either Spanish, French, Chinese, Hindi, or English will probably be the language you use in your Adulthood. In the same way, our childhood experiences can greatly affect our adulthood.

If you were treated with respect during your childhood and as you grew up, you are likely to respect children in your adulthood. If you were not respected, you are likely to disrespect children in your character. If you were often abused as a child you are likely to abuse other children in your adulthood. If you were valued as a child and as you grew up, you are likely to value other children.

Experiencing the love of the Father God:

Even if you were dishonored, unrespected, unvalued, feeling unworthy, feeling not precious as a child and as you grew up, knowing and experiencing the love of the Father God can change your character and make you respect and value other children, knowing and experiencing the love of the Father God will make you see children as precious and valuable.

You are a beloved child of the most high God, highly valued and precious.

– David Chawngthu

These are some few signs of valuing people:

1. Our communications and words to others shows our valuing for others, others will feel our value for them. Whether they are kids, man or women, young people, young or old, we need to value them.

Ephe 4:29 – Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

2. When we value others by showing our honor and respect, especially in our relations to one another – greeting people, showing our honor, showing hospitality, serving them, showing them that we valued them no matter who and the way they are. etc. Romans 12:10 said, “Honor one another”.

3. When we give full freedom in the clothing and makeups of others and one another, and which doesn’t bring temptation to sin, and without judging them from their outward appearances, that’s part of valuing others and one another. God loves people just the way they are, and God loves them just the way they are.

“Do not judge by mere appearances, but judge with righteous judgment”.(John 7:24)

4. Many times the way we treat others will determine how much we value them. The Bible said,

Luke 6:31 – “Do to others as you would want them do to you” (NIV)
“Treat others as you would want them to treat you” (NASB)

5. Valuing the gifts and callings of others is part of valuing others, releasing them into their destiny and calling.

6. People and others must be able to be who they are and just as they are, this is one way we can value them, that they have freedom because they are valuable. They must able to be just as they are, because they are valuable. Even though this may not be a permission to sin, or become a rebellion person, this may not be a permission to go and do adultery, steal things, have sex outside marriage, or do sinful things. And the word of God said,

Do not judge by mere appearances, but judge with righteous judgment”.(John 7:24)

When we judge others by outward appearances which has nothing to do with sin, or temptation to sin, which doesn’t hinder the Gospel, and being legalistic to them, we do not value others. we only tried conforming them into our personal image, of what we have for them, rather than giving them freedom, and letting people be people, we only become legalistic and don’t value people. Sometimes valuing people will stretch you so that people can be who they are and people can be people. And where the Spirit of our Lord Jesus Christ is, there is freedom.

Not to judge by mere appearances is a part of valuing others, that they can be just as they are and who they are. We must remember that there are diverse kinds of people on this earth, because God is creative, and that God is a creative God.

No matter who and what type of people, young or old, kids or children, no matter from where and who they are, our job is to value others just as they are. We need to let people be people, rather than unnecessary critiques, unnecessary controlling, being legalistic or judgmental, and that’s the Kingdom of God.

– David Chawngthu

Valuing people is important. When we value people, we might be valued back or not valued back, it doesn’t matter, we still got to value people. Valuing people will provide you wisdom. Valuing people is one great way to build relationships. No relationships can be build if we don’t value each others. You might call each others “friends” with someone or some people somewhere, out together, sport together, stay in the same home together, go to theater to watch movies together, but the point is that, “Do we value each others and do we value one another? that’s one important point. Therefore we need to value people, because people are valuable, we need to value each an everyone, because everyone are valuable. And because everyone are valuable in the sight of God, the true value of each person on earth to God is the blood of Jesus Christ, in the sight of God we all value the blood of His son Jesus Christ, because the price of each person on earth is the Blood of Jesus Christ. We are to value people as the Father God valued us. We are to value people as the Father God valued them.

One example of Valuing Others:

I’ve got quiet a few experiences on this topic, some people really find their Identity in Christ, binding up fears, live a life of boldness and courage, etc. But then i chose not to share, and this’s just one example.

In my place in India, I’m from the NE India, culturally the plain Indians are looked down and despised by the NE Indian. But then God didn’t allow us to despise and look down on them. Christ died for them, gave His life, sacrifice His life, shed His blood for them. Many of the plain Indian living in the NE India seems to have some kind of insecurity because of being mocked, despised, hated by people and so on. And unless we have a true value for them, it will be hard for us, for many people to build relationship with them. Valuing one another build trust in one another.

I’ve got a friend, he’s a muslim, a young guy, we have invited him once to have dinner in our new home at Bawngkawn, Aizawl, India. He was happy and enjoying, he gave our 2 boys 1 hanky each, toys and some apple fruits. And when he went to their home land and came back, he bought a towel for our two boys. He is not a rich person, just having a small shop on the road side of the street, therefore those were awesome things and awesome gifts to us. They are despised by many people in our lands, therefore even all his other friends from the plain were good to me when ever they saw me, and he is good to my family, my wife and us, because of just one invitation for dinner.

Abraham Lincoln: One of a popular and famous person in History for valuing people was Abraham Lincoln, who was the President of the United State. He was bold, courageous, compassionate, speaks the truths and fight for freedom because of his value for people.

Valuing people build their Identities in Christ:

If you say, “I love someone”, but do not value them, you do not love them. One of the main way love is measured is in your value for them. Jesus valued us, therefore he died for us on the cross.

Devaluing others can bring damage to people, in their minds, will, emotions, their life, works, destinies, their Identities in Christ, and in other things, while valuing others can bring healing to them, and valuing people will build their Identities in Christ. There are no one perfect on earth, therefore everyone on earth need to be valued, and need to be established in our Identities in Christ.

Everyone on earth wants to be loved and want to be valued. The Greatest presidents want to be valued and love, the people in the streets want to be valued and love, we all want to be loved and valued.

To work together in a team, or partner with others, we need to value others and one another. To build relationship with others, we need to value others and one another. To serve and minister to people, we need to value people. To reach out to the lost souls we need to value people. To reach out to what we would call the least and the last in this world, to the street people, homeless, street kids and orphans in the streets, we need to value people.

We need to value our kids, we need to value each others as couples, as a family, we need to value others, we need to value our in laws, we need to value people, we need to value others and value one another.

It is Foundational:

Valuing one another build trust in one another. We need to value others, value people, value one another, to build a good relationship with others. Valuing others is one of the main foundation for building relationships. Therefore building an environment and a culture of “valuing one another” is foundational to relationships.

– David Chawngthu